Sleepovers are always hard on everyone the day after. No one sleeps much at sleepovers, and it usually feels anticlimactic somehow after all the excesses from the night before. We gave Audrey permission to do a birthday sleepover last night and the aftermath was as expected. Audrey was exhausted but had to go a karate lesson early in the morning. A number of her friends also had to leave for their respective extracurricular activities. Physically drained, Audrey was in a foul mood most of the day. The inherent problem of a party is that it always has to end at some point and what goes up must come down.
Attention was also taken away from her because Angela was going to her prom tonight and was understandably anxious. The first thing I did in the morning was of course to pick up her dress from the mom and pop shop down the street. The lady was disappointed to see me instead of Peter picking up the dress. She said that her insurance did not cover a follow up visit and she had questions for Dr. Hui. I said maybe I would sent him over later with a pair of shoes that needed some work. The alteration turned out quite perfectly and Angela looked fabulous in it, but she didn’t feel beautiful. In this way she reminded me of myself when I was younger — uncomfortable in my own skin and deeply insecure of the way I looked. Though I could have easily done her hair and would have loved to do it, I sent her to a professional hair stylist. I was hoping she’d feel more “done up” this way. At the hair studio, there were two other girls having their hair done for the prom and one of them was Angela’s friend. I didn’t realize that it was actually a norm to get professional hair and makeup jobs for prom night and felt relieved that I sent her to a hair salon.
Audrey has a regional karate tournament in Foster City tomorrow. As a dojo student leader and a member of the storm team, she needs to be there before 7am to help set up the venue. We need to leave the house at 6 am to beat the road closures because of the Bay to Breaker event. Peter and I tried to talk her out of doing the morning volunteering. We reasoned that getting up so early would make her too tired to focus and do well in her own competition, but she broke into tears and ran away from us. I didn’t realize the significance of the event in her mind and was surprised by the strong emotional reaction from her. I called her back and asked her if it’s really that important for her to go in the morning. She said with tears streaming down her face, “What does it matter? You choose what I can or cannot do. I do what you choose.” I said that I would take her if she truly believes in what she was doing. Audrey said emphatically yes. She promised her sensei and felt bound by honor and duty to be there. I should have known better than to dissuade her from going. Karate has been a fun and meaningful pursuit for most of her life. She was so proud to have earned a teaching belt recently. Just a few days ago, she brought back her name cards from the dojo and autographed for each of us at home — signed in fancy cursive “Love, Audrey.”
I made these muffins for the birthday party girls, but they all got picked up by their parents early in the morning. When Audrey ate them, she said the muffins might be too healthy for her friends anyway. Should I feel insulted?
Gluten-free Vegan Coconut Muffins with Coconut Frosting
Ingredients for the muffins:
1 cup coconut flour
1/4 cup corn meal
1/2 cup xylitol or sugar
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 can full fat coconut milk (I used Thai Kitchen organic)
4 teaspoon vanilla extract
1/2 cup sweetened shredded coconut
Ingredients for Frosting:
1 can full fat coconut milk
4 tablespoon xylitol
1/4 cup sweetened shredded coconut
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup chopped mango
Preheat oven to 350F. Mix all dry ingredients thoroughly in a mixing bowl. In a separate bowl, mix all the wet ingredients together. Gently stir the wet mixture into dry ingredients.
Coconut flour is high in fiber and more absorbent than regular flour. If the mixture seems a little too dry add a tablespoon regular coconut milk.
Line the muffin pan with cups or grease the muffin pan with coconut oil. Pour the batter into the cups. Bake for 25 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean. Cool on the rack for 20 minutes before frosting. The batter makes 16 large muffins.
When the muffins are baking, mix all the ingredients for frosting in a food processor until smooth and thickened.
I made popsicles with the leftover frosting.