I read an article on today’s New York Times about a 78-year-old Iowa man, who has been arrested and is now on trial for having sex with his demented wife in the nursing home. Apparently, he visited his wife almost daily, sometimes twice a day, praying rosary by her bedside and taking her to church on Sundays, and occasionally he made love to her. According to social workers in the nursing home, the wife was always happy to see her husband and they would hold hands and talk. Sweet old man is all I can say.
I asked Peter if he would visit me twice a day when I am institutionalized for dementia. He just said, “All I want to know is what vitamins he was on?” Well, whatever vitamins he was on have brought him big trouble now. The problem was that she was so demented that she was not deemed fit to give consent to sex. And without consent, sex is rape. The demented wife who was not deemed fit to consent to sex had to go through an examination with a “rape kit.” It that even legal? Anyway, Peter just reminded me to add in my “Advanced Healthcare Directive” that he has my consent to do you know what.
Peter, who usually doesn’t like coleslaw, loved this red cabbage slaw with an Asian twist. He seems to believe that it contains aphrodisiac properties, and is also a cure for headaches. So, yeah…
Ingredients for the Salad:
1/2 head red cabbage, thinly sliced
1/4 mint leaves, chopped or cilantro, chopped
2 tbsp minced green onion or chives
1 tbsp toasted sesame seeds
1/2 cup chopped candied walnuts or candied cashews (I used cashews)
Ingredients for the Dressing:
1 tbsp minced ginger
1 tsp minced garlic
1/4 cup fresh lime juice
1/4 tsp lime zest
1/4 tsp red pepper flakes
1 tbsp 100% pure sesame oil
2 tbsp soy sauce
2 tbsp fish sauce
1/2 tsp Sriracha sauce
2 tsp brown sugar + 2 tsp xylitol (you can use 4 tsp brown sugar if you prefer)
Thinly slice the cabbage and put in salad bowl. Mix all ingredients for the dressing in a bowl. Pour the dress over cabbage and mix well. Let sit for an hour in the fridge.
Before serving, add everything else to the salad bowl and give it a few good toss.